The past few weeks at Faith Promise Church, the church my family attends and are members of, we have been talking about rooted in Christ. The sermon series has been one of my favorites. “Roots” (the title of the sermon series) has been an expository look at the book of Colossians.
The series has looked at being rooted in prayer, Christ, hope, grace, guarding ourselves against things that try to separate us from Christ.
What does it mean to be rooted in Christ when it comes to parenting? The fact of the matter is: there are so many things that Christian parents need to be rooted in to help us parent the way God intends us to raise our children.
Although I don’t have the experience others do, I still find it quite enlightening how applicable the Bible is to my view of parenting a toddler.
So here are a few ideas for us to be rooted in when it comes to our parenting:
Rooted in prayer: Prayer is our lifeline to God. We communicate with Him, He responds to us through prayer. When I am running short on patience with my son, I tend to fly off the handle and get a little too loud. I need to go to God in prayer more often when I feel myself coming under pressure. The battle in our homes is a result of our enemy trying to separate the family unit. We must pray to God for His grace to be given to us so that we can have the patience needed. God hears our voice (prayer), and restores peace to us, especially when the battle rages in our hearts and homes (Psalms 55:17-19).
Rooted in Christ: When we are rooted in Christ we recognize His sovereignty in our household. Jesus provided many instructions for us in the gospel accounts that while they may not be directed explicitly to parents, the instructions can certainly be used in parenting. Jesus lived a humble life, one of serving others. Are you humble enough in your parenting to realize when you’re wrong and serve your children instead of them serving you? My son, as young as he is, will tell me when I fail to put on my seatbelt, or even when I said the “S”-word (stupid, shut-up, etc.) because it’s a bad word. Being rooted in Christ is evident to others when we humbly admit to others we were wrong about something.
Rooted in grace: Thinking back to the example of the “S”-word, I could, as a parent, tell him that he has no place to tell me what I can say. I could even threaten him with a timeout, toys taken away, or other disciplinary actions because he decided to correct me. But being rooted in grace would say to my son, “You are right, buddy. Daddy did say a word he doesn’t want you to say. Please forgive me for my bad example.” When your children correct you for something you’ve done, how do you respond to them? Being rooted in grace is a Christ-like attribute we, as parents, must intentionally embrace to be effective.
Rooted in hope: Being rooted in hope is something all of us need. In my teenage years I did quite a bit that didn’t honor myself or my mother. Without hope she would have been more discouraged that she was. She hoped that I would turn around and live a better life. I was a wayward child at one time. Perhaps you were too. If your children are in a rebellious period right now, keep hope in the Biblical principles you’ve taught them; then they will come back to the words God teaches (Proverbs 22:6). Have that hope, it will carry you through when times are tough.
What about you? What have you rooted your parenting in? What experiences do you have? Leave me a comment below. I would like to hear what you have to say. We are better together.